Unique Investigator of Human Nature

Fraudulent Life and its Consequences

Dr. Edmund Bergler called it “Counterfeit Sex.” Since my latest book is titled, We´re Having Sex Right Now!, I feel comfortable widening the concept calling it “Fraudulent Life.” Call it what you like, it’s all fake.
If we take into account our so called civilized society I suppose we would
agree that some defensive (fake) conduct is necessary for social interaction. However, for some centuries now, the fundamental essence of integrated human energy (sexual energy) has been denied in favor of the likes of wholesale manipulation of behavior, massive dependence on mechanical contraptions with their instructions and maintenance requirements, intellectualizing life without experiencing it, and getting money any way you can (just for the sake of getting it). All of these are accomplished with the background music of deceit, anxiety, hate, rage, fantasies, wishful thinking, insecurity and related self-destructive expressions of the desire to suffer, (see We’re Having Sex Right Now!, by Dr. William E. P. Fairmont, 2004). Those conditions convert the concept of fraud into “the way life is.” The essence of living sexual energy is blocked out. Authentic expression is absent. Fraud is no longer fraudulent. The fact is that those who do it best or who simply get away with it are admired and rewarded. Only perverse superficialities are perceived as “real” and “worthwhile.”



All that is not new,” you say. “Didn’t Shakespeare tell us, ‘All the world’s a stage and all the people are the players’?” “Didn’t Freud try to enlighten us as to the fact that the majority of our instincts and energies are alive in us, but are embedded and stored in a part of our mind that is not within our immediate conscious reach?” “Didn’t he further tell us that we have a very energetic SUCONSCIOUS MIND that wants to do things and does them without our conscious awareness, and that that condition forces us to pretend that we know what we’re doing?”



You’re right! They did tell us things to those effects. However, as time goes on the development of modern technologies and other distractions have combined with greed and envy to push and pull people further and further away from their unified-harmonious psychosexual nature, making perversity the order of the day. These perversities manage our lives. In recent times they have proliferated, becoming more refined, more hysterically intense, and more part of everyday life (globalized).



As a result, life has become more drab, sick and sickening. Yet, almost nobody appears to be particularly upset about these turns of events. Furthermore, even though an acclaimed series of doomsday predictions backed by solid evidence have become popular, doing something about them seems to be on “hold.” Doesn’t it look like the “wanting systems” of human beings are either incapable of doing anything to prevent the announced disasters or these disasters are precisely what people want? I think that there is plenty of evidence for both of these arguments:



Faking life is automatic when authentic life is inhibited, discouraged, and not appreciated because it is not perceived or known, hence; not experienced. This kind of, living without feeling it, became popular around the turn of the last century and gave rise to an increased amount of phony conduct. What happened was that mass production took a lot of importance away from values like the development of good character, the profound significance of the family, and the carefully cultivated acquisition of skills. So when machines, factories, and the objects they produce, suddenly took on tremendous importance, people were sucked into giving up the old values. Little by little the emphasis on money depersonalized day-to-day interchange. Frenetic industrialization drained away the little self-understanding and self-awareness that we had. People were forced to repress their feelings and were left with trying to “figure out” what was going on rather than sensing and experiencing what was happening. Intellectual maneuvering, chicanery, “vocabularic pomposity” in schools and the “professions,” mathematical and scientific gymnastics, religious and political scare tactics, etc. began to receive greater prizes and privileges than hard work. Manual labor was looked on as degrading. On the other hand, putting on certain airs, posing, bullying and other forms of false fronting slithered into vogue. The repressed energies were shoved and squeezed into inhibition and depression, extravagant and outlandish behavior and gangsterism, all of which peaked with the great depression of 1929.



Perhaps of greater negative importance; the insecurity produced by the gradual loss of family unity, drove women to abandon in large measure their psycho-biological identity which significantly upped the insecurity quotient. Proof of this abandonment of mother love is registered in the grotesque history of the latter half of the twentieth century. The befuddlement in people, produced by not being adequately loved and cared for in infancy, turned into monstrousness and grand scale unprecedented cruelty, mayhem, and legalized mass murder. Apparently these manifestations which in one form or another are very exaggerated versions of, “I want my Mommy!!”, have had little or no real effect on our understanding of how motherhood influences our lives. On we go with a plan to blot out the essence of women. We numb them, forcing them to become imitators of men leaving us without mother love more than ever. It looks like the goal is to wipe life out altogether.


Some of the effects of no mother love are furtively demonstrated by everyday rituals that we take for granted. These “obligations” irritate the hell out of us. In spite of that, our resignation to their “necessity” keeps us numb, oblivious to what’s really going on, incapable of thinking creatively, sick (physically and mentally etc.). I’m referring to things like going to school; buying Christmas, birthday etc. presents; paying taxes and all kinds of bills; getting licensed; getting married; serving in the army; looking at the clock at work; standing in line at the bank-movies-check out counter; washing the car-the dog-the front of the house; going to church; cutting the grass; getting the computer-the TV-the swimming pool pump etc. repaired; going to the dentist-the doctor-the lawyer-the courthouse etc. Most people live the major portion of their lives just hoping to “Get those things over with!” From there we drone on into “thing worship,” “money hysteria,” and wars which make the attraction people have to non-life clear to a few of us, but totally unrecognized by the majority.